Some women I know absolutely hate the impression that the "Cold and Isolated" man emits from his presence. One of the reasons that they rationalize, is that they are somewhat jealous of their ability to mask his own emotions and to stay perfectly, inscrutably unpredictable. They also said that such first impressions are according to them is a hallmark of focus, emotional mastery, self-assurance and internal clarity.
But it is not always the case, as described above. There are many underlying reasons that explains otherwise.
Being a "Cold and Isolated" man, is sometimes a very hard choice to make. Often, men choose to become one for such reasons: to protect themselves based either on their past (sometimes negative) experiences they face with people (women especially), as their own way of dealing with people due to certain social limitations they have as a individual and as one of the many means to broadcast to everyone that there will be consequences when he is manipulated selfishly or severely offended. This also means that he might even choose to allow the emotional state of relationships with the people around him suffer as well.
When it comes to women, "Cold and Isolated" men may have a hidden, unspoken prejudice that potrays women in a negative light. It usually starts to grow from past hurtful experiences such men have with women, which are mostly partially justified or fully justified, which for the most part, the female party is guilty of hurting a man's feelings. Men who go through such experiences, find it quite hard to curb away such prejudices towards other women who are clearly innocent. And the magnitude of such prejudices get horribly worse if men continue to suffer such treatment from women.
If you had read several of my past articles, you would have read about the ways of how men emotionally recuperate and rejuvinate themselves. Usually, they would prefer to be alone and have time off from their daily schedule to "sort themselves out". And they do not appreciate any violation of their private space, especially if it is of a indirect or direct attack towards our ego, fragile emotional state or insecurities.
"Cold and Isolated" men may be hard to deal with in person, they often do not wish to become pushovers, and they very often "draw a line" and set their own standards of how others would deal with him. They also project an image of themselves that inspires either fear, respect, repulsive feelings or submission. The degree of such behavior would be multiplied to become somewhat intolerable when several masculine traits come into play: Being ambitious, Bottling up emotions, Lack of emotional expression or empathy, etc. A nightmarish situation with such a man would be possible if he possesses a keen machiavellist mind, unrestrained without a strong sense of ethics and morals.
Such men are also defensive at times. They are men of anticipation and perception, seeking and keeping watch over their potential detractors.
In the next part of the "Cold and Isolated" man article, I will touch on the remedies, tactics and ways to deal with such men.
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