Coin (Part 1)

Have you ever found yourself in those short little moments, when you wondered about the man (it could be anyone) in your life sometimes ? About who he really is deep down inside ?

It is hard to find out where a man is coming from, and i know that for women, often do let their thoughts and imagination run and try to picture a man based on their own perceptions.

Well, i might not have all the right answers to the masculine mind or the perfect guideline on personal discernment.................... but perhaps, my first part of my little philosophical guideline rant today might help you just a little.

You see, a man is very much like a coin, not totally, but somewhat similar to it. While a coin has 2 sides to it, a man has 3 sides.

And like a coin, a man would often find himself being either having one side of himself facing upwards for the world to see, while the opposite side facing downwards in complete privacy.

3 sides ! Yes. 3 sides. Now allow me to explain the 3 different sides to a man:

The first side to a coin:

The first side to a man, is the essence of the man that he originally is. The personality that he was born with, his individual psyche, his sense of his own true self.

In the deepest darkest recesses of a man's soul, lies the person that he really is. That is the "first side of a coin". It is deeply embedded in us. We do not wish to show it, preferring to hide it under lock and key. You see, as men, we tend to be modestly vulnerable about this part of ourselves. And this is where our flaws, natural behavior, ego, desires, pride and masculine instincts really reside.

Have you ever felt certain vibes from a man, who is currently or was involved in your life ? (For example) When, perhaps, you felt that he was attracted to you in one way or another ? Maybe.............. it was a vibe that spoke subtle signals to you that he is somewhat sexually interested in you as a woman ? I believe that is our "first side" at work.

Men, or i should say for most men, find that the contemporary social situation in our lives demands that we should be more than what we originally are. And that also means keeping ourselves in check (especially in sexual matters). To grow and to be moulded into what i would say, would be the..........

The second side to a coin:

The second side to a man, is the essence of a man for who he has become. His ambitions, dreams, ideals, personal drive, his intellect, his way of thought forms much of this "side of the coin".
As males come to an age (the age varies from man to man, individualistically) where instinct gives way to reason, a boy would be nudged to slowly become a man.

It is from this point where the real work begins for a man. The drive to prove one's worth, the drive to achieve, to build a sense of worth through accomplishments. This masculine crusade is really much of a battle to prove our worth and perhaps to reassure ourselves that, through such successful efforts, we can compensate for the flaws and failings that we have initially. That's the problem with us, we do not address such personal issues as we ideally should.

Frankly speaking, from this very point as i write, i did imagine myself being a woman and how i would react when i am reading this. I wouldn't be impressed at all. (I know..... I know...... i honestly believe i would sincerely be a very difficult woman if things were DIFFERENT.)

For some members of the "aggressive sex", it is difficult and even daunting because of this "sudden" change. They would cling on to certain aspects of their initial phases of their lives, the times where we could never totally let go of our nostalgia.

After all, i believe that most of us men do have a childish side that allows us to sometimes break free from belittling demands of the environment around us. In some occasionally extreme cases, a few select men grow to use their capabilities of reasoning to justify their personal choice to embrace their "First Side" and freely express it. Personally, i feel that men like that are not really worth much in both style and substance. They, more often than not, have qualities, traits even flaws from their "First Side" that has yet to be refined and grown to fit into the "Second Side".

But what about the "The Third Side of a coin" ? What is it all about ? Stay tuned to find out.